Never relish relations on your own pyre

Family is one of those best words, which all of us love repeating and remembering all the time. The family is involved either directly or indirectly, with what an individual does in his/her life. If we go by the definition, a group of people affiliated either by birth, by marriage or co-residence is called as family. If this is the definition then why words like separations, differences even exists. If a son forces his dad every now and then to divide the property or a daughter in law doesn’t like that her husband maintain any relation with his family or if an elder brother betrays his younger brother or sister or if a son leaves his mother and doesn’t come to see her despite being in the same city. Should we still consider them as part of our family? I don’t think so and there is no need to relish the dead relations on the stake of your own pyre.  We all know that an individual can never be off debts from what parents has done to make him stand or earn in this brutal world. If family is a body and love runs like blood nourishing all the organs of the body then why we see so many old age homes in a beautiful and holy places like Haridwar. Will you still consider such children as members of a family? If an orphan helps an old aged person, who is left alone by his son or daughter in law, I would call that orphan as a family rather than that ungrateful son. Similarly, I believe a family consists of all those members who have helped or even thought to help you during your bad time rather than those who were only enjoying with you during your good time and turned their back at you during your bad days. The Great Budha has lucidly described “A family is a place where minds come in contact with one another.” So why holding such relationships which are soulless. It is better to leave then relishing such relationships on your own pyre.