My View

Some times when things aren’t falling your way, despite when you haven’t left any stone unturned. Whenever I feel sad, I call my dad to share whatever is running in my mind. So yesterday, when I called my father, he said a very important thing about life and time. He said that the  crucial thing in life is time and the funny thing about time is, it is always moving .   You neither can go back to fix a mistake nor you can jump ahead of the stream to find when happiness is falling your way . He further added, son,  you can only go with the flow to reach where you are destined to be . But by flowing doesn’t mean that you literally flow with time, it means that you keep a righteous approach in all your efforts.  Sachin Tendulkar is called as God of Cricket , he can make a record of hitting the fastest century in a match but he can’t hit a hundred on the very first ball. Even the creator of this earth took time to create life and he takes time to write every fold of life...

Love is a base of every relationship. Though there are many other feelings which channelize love into a strong bond in any relationship. Still there would be some feelings like disagreement, unfairness, lies which crosses our way and shake our bonds. Each one of us must have passed through such alleys, where knowingly or unknowingly we became a part of a fight and later that changed into tidal bulges. Like everyone try to win in such situations which in result weakens the bond and hence causes either distance in the relation or completely breaking that relationship. I witnessed such fights in every relation and viz-a-viz have participated sometimes. But post every such incidents, my heart took me through the memory lanes to witness the discussions between my grandparents. From where I found a cheat code to such problems. Whenever during any conversation, my grandfather used to feel that this conversation might lead to any heated discussion then my grandfather used to say a statement “...

Family  is one of those best words, which all of us love repeating and remembering all the time. The family is involved either directly or indirectly, with what an individual does in his/her life. If we go by the definition, a group of people affiliated either by birth, by marriage or co-residence is called as family. If this is the definition then why words like separations, differences even exists. If a son forces his dad every now and then to divide the property or a daughter in law doesn’t like that her husband maintain any relation with his family or if an elder brother betrays his younger brother or sister or if a son leaves his mother and doesn’t come to see her despite being in the same city. Should we still consider them as part of our family? I don’t think so and there is no need to relish the dead relations on the stake of your own pyre.  We all know that an individual can never be off debts from what parents has done to make him stand or earn in this bru...

Recently, I got to know about a stringent behavior of males towards the female employee. The behavior was so unnatural and painful that left me with a question that ‘Is she safe’ in her team. We talk about rules, laws, and phrases like ‘Save the Girl Child’. But is this sufficient. I feel despite various rules, laws, and policies, the girls are still not safe. Be it a public place, a straight road or a private company. Another thought comes to my mind is, can beauty turns be a curse. When a girl gets promotion then why peers, seniors or juniors becomes so judgmental about the character of the girl. Why everyone opens up a discussion about her relationship, especially with her boss? Some or the other way her boss also starts giving different offers like let’s booze together. In no time the request of dropping at home changes to I will drop you. This seems like he is trying to ask for a payback and that too in kind. Has anyone even asked the girl that what she needs, whether sh...

There is a saying that “To realize the value of ONE HOUR, ask the lovers who are waiting to meet”. I want to add in this, “To realize the value of strength, ask a soul who has fallen weak because of losing perspective of life”. Losing tangible and important things in life, may not be a great loss. But losing perspective in life is living without a heartbeat, which is next to impossible. Unfortunately, I have lived a life when I was clueless because I had lost the perspective of life. I constantly kept on asking the God that why he has taken the life out of me and left me like a broken shell. When I was trying to keep myself busy in doing the regular activities, tasting the bitterness of life. One day God smiled at me and blessed me with a moment of joy. The almighty made me open the door for the second most beautiful soul, after my mother. The almighty didn’t stop there and kept on creating the beautiful memories of life. People say that there is no any name for the soul....

Yesterday, I was in Metro was enjoying the journey back to Noida. There were rakhis tied on every hand, seems everyone had enjoyed this auspicious festival that reflects the strength of the bond between brother & sister. I too enjoyed the festival of bonds with my sisters. While enjoying the ride, a question kept on banging my head and left me unanswered. If everyone has a sister/s, may be a real or cousin but still they have a relation and shares a strong bond of care, love, happiness, understanding, nemesis and best partners in crime. Then why there are increasing numbers of eve-teasing, Rapes, and female feticides. This question took me back to my childhood, the day when I visited my dog – Bruno. We had a dog but we sold him when he was 4 years. Actually, we had a kid at our home, which used to crawl on the floor and my grandfather suggested that’s not good if we keep the dog because dog and the child share the same playground i.e. floor. One day when I was missing Bruno, ...

Success! A word which is loved by everyone, because no one wants to lose at any given time & situation. There is no any such measuring unit which can evaluate the depth or compare anybody’s success. It is equally important and dear to every human being.  I believe that following are five factors which either can help in succeed or can give us speed on the way to succeed: Follow the Truth – In Shrimad Bhagavad Geeta, Lord Krishna has told Arjuna that the reason why I am at your side is because truth is at your side. And I believe it’s needless to say that when God is at your side then it’s impossible that you lose. So while on the path of fulfilling your dreams, it’s important or rather mandatory that you should hold the pillars of truth tightly. In the words of Albert Einstein “Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of values” . Positive Attitude – Success is not so easy to achieve. An achiever who has tasted the bitterness of failu...

Every relationship is exclusive, important and every person has his own way of understanding about relationships. I feel that every relationship has a soul which keeps a relationship alive. A soulless relationship can never nurture a life. I believe that a soul of relationship is made up of three simple but very enlightening words i.e. sincere efforts , Trust and Love . These 3 words goes hand in hand. Many sincere efforts create trust between the persons and this trust leads to love which strengthen the bond.  Though there are many other things like understanding, ability to listen, and communication etc. Priority is a subset of making sincere efforts. Make your relationship a top priority , give full of your time and energy to the relationship. Never ever stonewall in any relationship. Communications are one of the steps in sincere efforts. Now that you are putting time and effort, this will leads to trust in a relationship. Respect is another factor. The words are very ...

Almost every evening, I visit Gurdwara in my locality to listen the “Gurbani Kirtan” (singing sacred hymns selected from “Guru Granth Sahib”). Yesterday ‘Sangat’ ( companions or the collective body of Sikhs who are the members of a congregation ) unfolds an important chapter of life i.e. on mistakes. These days everyone is busy in trying to overpower the others by every possible way and that way could be of destruction as well. Finding mistakes in someone is another possible way to overpower. People have understood the wrong essence of relationship, rather strengthening the bond with love they are more interested in finding mistakes so that when required they can blackmail to win over him. If this is limited as a tamarind  flavour  between brothers, sisters, couples etc. then it brings lots of joy and happiness but if it is used as a weapon to overpower then such sword of blackmailing always cut the relations apart. Sangat also mentioned that a person who has share...

Yesterday, I was in Metro was enjoying the journey back to Noida. There were rakhis tied on every hands, seems everyone had enjoyed this auspicious festival that reflects the strength of bond between brother & sister. I too enjoyed the festival of bonds with my sisters. While enjoying the ride, a question kept on banging my head and left me unanswered. If everyone has a sister/s, may be a real or cousin but still they have a relation and shares a strong bond of care, love, happiness, understanding, nemesis and best partners in crime. Then why there are increasing numbers of eve-teasing, Rapes and female foeticide. This question took me back into my childhood, the day when I visited my dog – Bruno. We had a dog but we sold him when he was of 4 years. Actually we had kid at our home, which used to crawl on the floor and my grandfather suggested that’s not good if we keep dog because dog and the child shares the same playground i.e. floor. One day when I was missing Bruno, my fa...

Quite a number of times we have visited supermarkets and must have noticed that the things are applicably placed. Starting with the fresh fruits to groceries items to utensils to washing powders, wipers to toys and ends up with the clothes sections. But how many of us have really tried to feel their business model. Understanding and feeling may lead to knowledge but one is through mind and other is via heart. Have you ever tried to feel that the supermarkets - a glowing laid-out, healthy stocked with the right product adjacencies and effective visual merchandising, which in returns increases their selling pace that incur profit. A best layout is that behind which there are lots of thought process and emotions. If we can use the same business model in our relationships, then there will be lots of love and happiness in the air. Let me describe that: Senses play a vital role , when you walk into the door; you smell bread baking or chicken. That is why they keep the food items at the...

Sometimes I feel so gloomy and shattered because of the right that our Democracy and constitution gives i.e. Right to Speak. Anyone just stood up and express his/her feelings without thinking or caring about others. Past few days I spent in thinking about the scenes of Amir Khan’s newly released movie PK. As like everyone has his own view point, I have also a viewpoint which I want to share with the mass. I heard many of the respected Dharma-Gurus (been of any religion) saying that the movie PK has sent a wrong message in the mass by showcasing the Gods in a depraved manner. I heard many people / respected Dharma-gurus saying that many scenes of PK has spread a wrong message by wrong posturizing of the respected Hindu Gods like Lord Shiva, the destroyer of fear is running to save himself. I just want to ask one simple question to them and to all of you that is it correct that everyone/anyone is allowed to dress-up like our Gods. If anyone of you has watched a revolutionary/devo...

What are those two important things which we do when some guest visits or family member comes to our home?  “Namaste” this is how we greet our guests. The very next moment we bring water for our guests or family or any other person who comes to our home. These are the most valuable cultures which makes us different in the world. My job profile enables me to travel a lot across the world. I have tested and tried many of the air carriers. The kind of hospitality by the crew, aroma in the carrier and coziness in the seats that I have found in Air India, I have never found in any of the flight. Above all, the way they greet and maintain the cultures of India in the flight as well, it’s marvelous and enough to leave behind the others. Do you know which the thing that impresses an Indian the most is? It is not scotch. I am saying the thing that can impress an Indian and scotch only drool the Indian.  Water is that thing which impresses an Indian because branded scotch can’...

In any culture and relation, gifts play a vital role in strengthening the bonds. The value, size and brand of the gift don’t matter, what matter is the love, feelings and gratitude behind that gift. In absence of these, I think its waste. “The Best gift” of life is what is given by the best person of our life.  What do you think, who is the best person or who are the best persons in our life. In my life, my mother and father are the best persons. What would be the best gift that a mother or father would give to his/her daughter? I believe “The Best Gift” a father can give to his son is a “Piggy Bank” . I know that Money is not everything in the life but without money as well there is nothing in life. When I say a piggy bank, I don’t mean the typical plastic pig where we used to save our coins. So whenever life shows a rough path, then he should be able to walk through that patch instead of begging or lending money.   A best quote these days is “A Man Who Treats His Gir...

After 68 years of Independence and being well-educated human being of 21 st century, what we are giving back to our nation is Love Jihad. Alas! What are we doing with the lives and sentiments of our nation to whom we call our motherland? This is what a child like us should pay back to his/her motherland that despite of uplifting it we are continuously slaughtering its image by rapes, murders, loot, communal riots and now Love Jihad. Does this combination of two antonyms Love and Jihad make sense to anyone? Love is the positive word whereas Jihad is a well-known word with full of negativity . Can we combine these two words and make a beautiful place to live. Why we are so much interested in taking about conversions and reconversions of people into other religion/s. Since childhood what we have learnt that God is one been it Alah, Waheguru, Jesus or any hindu God . How does it matter that to which religion we belong to or of which God do we worship. The only thing ma...

Without any hesitation we murmur a phrase in front of our parents “You don’t understand me”. Is this a correct definition of Generation Gap? Do you think so? While sitting at my seat in my office and listening to my colleague's non-senses, I noticed that time and again he was repeating some lines. Those lines were, “I am planning a vacation trip to Kashmir” and “My Grandmother is not feeling well and my dad is forcing me to take her to Doctor (in Calcutta)”. To my utter shock those were not simple lines, he was telling his problems. He was planning a vacation trip to Kashmir. He told me that he has planned a 6 Days/5 Nights trip and he has booked some exotic hotel in Pahalgam. The whole trip was costing him around 50k to 60k. He was happy and was apprising everyone in the team. Suddenly he got a phone call from his dad and his loud harp sound turned to mourning expression. Courtesy I asked him – What has happened? And those were my last words because by then he start...

For few days and for some reasons, things are not going my way. After so much analysis, drilling down, roller coaster drives and reducing weight by 3 KG, suddenly I got the answer. The answer is these TORMENTS. Some stupid people with their senseless comments make our life-A Hell. I don’t know why people take so much interest in spoiling other’s life. These days’ people are not happy with glee in their life but aggravated due to happiness in other’s life. I feel pity for them because they don’t have guts & just spending their lives with a solo axiom of spoiling other’s lives. Pity for those poor people who lose their strength & become a prey for such tormenters. How these poor people will face because there are lot of wolves in this world who at every step enjoy bullying. I think we should be very careful and strong enough to stop such bullies. If we do not stop them today then our Life will change from optimum to glum to hades. Sometime we are helpless because som...

My friend is residing in a PG, on the Land of FILM STARS -- Aamchee Mumbai. There we can find from huge well constructed Buildings, acquainted with lots of facilities to Slums. No No No… don’t take me wrong, I am neither commenting on the life style of Film Stars nor discussing havocs of SLUMS. But something else which is more misfortune, a pain but still we call it A LIFE. My friend told me that she has a pet, a parrot in her room. She told me that when she returns home from office and enters in the room, Parrot starts chirping and fills the room with saccharine whistle.  She loves playing with Mithoo (her parrot’s name). They sing Duets, play Antakshree, converse (obviously in their respective languages because Mithoo does not know Punjabi).I want to be the part of that conversation because I want to see who talks more - My Friend or Mithoo. How Mithoo sleeps is also a lovely style, Mithoo folds its neck in a very exquisite way and then sleep. My friend gives a handkerchief to...

‘Suggestions’ a word loved by all and a profession performed by everyone in this universe. But sometimes this word loses its importance when it is used by a set of people who are Overindulgent (those who love to interfere in every activity of other people). Such kind of people knowingly or unknowingly destroys the lives of everyone who are unfortunately in touch with them. We can find this set of people everywhere. With everywhere I mean place, relation, locality etc. I am not framing my personal sentiments but I am trying to portray a real picture with a scenario. This is a scene which includes ‘A Shopkeeper’ and A Set of ‘Overindulgent people’. A Shopkeeper has just completed all inaugural ceremony of his Sweet Shop. Overindulgent 1 – Oh my God! What have you written on the board? Shopkeeper – Why, what happens? It’s very nicely written “BEST QUALITY SWEETS ARE AVAILABLE”. Overindulgent 1 – No, Don’t write Best Quality. This creates a doubt among customers that may be low qua...